HE IS NOT THERE YET.

On Marring Rich Men.

"Emma you should never marry a rich man, or a well off man. He will definitely bully you. By the way what can you do for him, he is a self made man." Mama jibes on and on.

Certainly I haven't heard this from my mama only, just a few days ago a far away relative said I shouldn't marry a rich man, since there is nothing I can do for him and there is pride in building a man up. And if he is built up where will my work be seen and what will I take pride in.

I on one hand agree and on the other disagree. And I will argue on what I don't agree with.

Success is an endless journey. And a little cash in the bank, good clothes, a nice ride, five homes doesn't mean a man is already there. Yes he has some, but he ain't there yet, for if he was, we would be celebrating his funeral by now but he is not and that means God's purpose in his life is yet to be fulfilled. And God's purpose is the why we marry.

A rich man may have life made up for himself, but how sure are we he has fulfilled the purpose God has for him? From a Godly perspective, a wife is a help-meet/help mate. The one who comes to help a man fulfil the vision God has put in his heart. Maybe he looks like he has it all, most times they don't have it all. They have only checked the boxes that society has put down for them, such as;
□ Get a job.
□ Get a good house
□ Get a good car
□ Travel
□ Invest
□ Live life
But it doesn't mean they have made it in life.
In marrying a rich man or a self made man. It shouldn't be that they have money. It should be that they have a vision from God and me as a woman is well equipped to help that vision to become a reality.

I believe we can marry anyone, rich or poor. As long as we can be the help meet to them God intended for us to be. Money can run out, all that he may have may go to waste, life is just that unpredictable. But the will of God endures forever.

I will end my bantering by saying, before we ask smart independent purpose filled young women not to marry rich men, lets remember, there is more to success than a being a millionaire since you can be a billionaire, and there is certainly more to life than money. There is God's will that must be fulfilled.

And to young women like myself, marry a man not for his money or status, which of cause I know this advice will be ignored, but yet, let me go on with it. Know who you are as a woman and use all the gift you have to assist the vision in your man come to pass. Marry a kind and respectful individual, be respectful and respectable yourself. Be smart, be useful, be enterprising, be who God wants you to be.