Walking down the aisle like💃!!!!!!!!

"I am getting married on this and that months" Trust me, this has been the "it" statement from half of my lady friends. You know when you study that school which has two hundred girls in a class?!! Yeahhhh that, I went to that, trust me you can never run out of girl friends who are getting married.
As an aspiring counsellor, (well don't panick, it's far way coming), I get concerned about how we ladies think as we approach this beautiful stage in life. A stage of accepting the responsibility directly from God of being a builder of a home. Yes I know, you didn't know, as a woman you are a fellow workmanship of God, but this time, it's not on building the church, it's on building your home.
Marriage is like a black hole that is pink in colour, (I truly don't know how that would look like!) and you can not know enough before you say "I do". The encouraging part is, you can always know something and that will be a thousand times better than to know nothing.
In seeking knowledge we all need to use some guidlines, example statements or questions. Questions being the better part, it is good that you as a beautiful "bride to be" get a list of your own, so you can work a little bit of knowledge.
So before you walk down the aisle, I hope we can work together through these fifty questions. That will help you in knowing what exactly you are getting into and how prepared you are for the very rewarding task. Trust me they 're simple and mind blowing questions, that only you, get to answer and get to study on. They are also not limited to the nearly to get married, but also to the singles that are hoping to walk down the aisle one day, or the married who are wondering how time could go so fast!
After the questions I have also provided a list of amazing books that can assist you in answering all the questions. The questions are also categorised and here we goooooooo!!!!

Personal questions:
1. Who am I?
2. Where am I from?
3. Why am I here?
4. What can I do?
5. Where am I going?

Questions about GOD:
6. Who is God?
7. What does he want from me?
8. Why did he create me?
9. What are the plans of God for humanity?
10. What are God's plans for me?

Vision questions:
11. What is the God given vision in my husband?
12. How can I be a help meet?
13. What is my partners career path?
14. What is my career path?
15. How are our careers aligned with God's vision for us?

Marriage questions:
16. What is marriage?
17. Why did God design It?
18.Why am I getting married?
19. What does it mean to be one flesh in marriage?
20. What should I expect and what should I not expect from marriage?

Personality questions:
21. What is my personality?
22. What is my partners personality?
23. What is my love language?
24. What is my partners love language?
25. How do our personalities relate?
26. How do they contradict or differ, how can we work the differences to our advantage?
27. What are my strengths and weaknesses ?
28. What are my partners strengths and weaknesses?
29. How do I cover my own and my partners weaknesses?
30. How do I enhance my own and my partners strength?

Note: Most helpful personality description can be the 16 personalities by Myers Briggs.

Needs questions:
31. What are a man's greatest needs? (3)
32. How can I meet my husband's needs?
33. What are my needs as a woman?
34. How can my husband meet my needs?
35. What do I do if my needs are not met?

Love questions:
36. What is love?
37. How do I show love?
38. Does love end?
39. Does love have to do anything with feelings?
40. How do I learn to love unconditionally?

Respect questions:
41. What is respect?
42. How do I show respect?
43. Why did God ask women to submit to their husbands?
44. What is in store for me as a woman when I respect and submit to my husband?
45. How do I submit to my husband?

Forgiveness questions:
46. What is forgiveness?
47. How essential is forgiveness in my marriage?
48. How do I forgive?
49. How do I know I have forgiven?
50. Can I forget after I forgive?

There are so many questions that I haven't highlighted.  Most of these questions are based on finding Purpose for one self and as a couple that depends wholly in Christ. There are questions about child rearing, extended family, money and so much more. I hope these few questions can be a pathway to a greater knowledge and understanding, and assist you to live in a God guided marriage.

Here goes the Book list.
1. Purpose and power of a woman by Dr. Myles Munroe
2. Purpose and power of a man by Dr. Myles Munroe
3. Principles and power of Vision by Dr. Myles Munroe
4. The purpose and power of Love and marriage by Dr. Myles Munroe
5. God's big Idea by Dr. Myles Munroe
6. Uncover your potential by Dr. Myles Munroe
7. The purpose driven life by Rick Warren
8. Lies women believe by Nancy Leigh DeMoss
9. The five love languages by Gary Chapman
10. Love & Respect: The love she most desires; The respect he desperately needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
11. The Love Dare by Alex and Stephen Kendrick
12. The power of a Praying wife by Stormie Omartian

My list could go on and on, without forgetting there is a book that I couldn't keep in the list for it is more important and essential than all books, and that is the BIBLE, also known as the Written Word of God. It is so important that, even if you don't take time to read any of these books, you still have to take time to study the BIBLE. So let's just get these ones over with first, and get to more, good luck. Love and forever.